Am I too old to have posters on my walls?
I am 20 years old and I have a lot of crap on my walls Does this make me appear immature to people seeing my room for the first time? So I have nightmare before christmas posters, pink floyd, nirvana, bob marley, and guitar chords.. I have abstract canvas paintings that I made, and also drawings that are framed. I have two canvas print photographs of a violin and piano. I also have "BEER" written on my wall from sign letters I stole when I was in highschool (first and only thing ever stolen). Oh and there's two wall bookshelves full of books. So. What is your impression of my room? I kind of like it the way it is.. But should I think about clearing up some wall space?How to interact with my elderly grandparents (in their 90s)?
Can anyone with experience with the elderly give me some advice about how to better communicate with my VERY old grandparents? They are in their mid-90s and obviously this brings health problems- a ton. They can both barely hear, my grandma cannot talk correctly because of a vocal chord thing, has vertigo and has turned really crabby in the past few years-- but if I were her I'd be crabby too. She's sort of more existential than my cheerful grandpa. My grandma and I were so close when I was a girl- I would sleep over their house every friday night until I hit, like, high school (LOL!) and now I don't know how to interact with them during visits. If they talk to each other or to my mom, they inevitably start fighting with my mother, who is usually there with me, about what to do about which health problem and it all gets so unpleasant. I just sit there and sometimes my grandma looks at me expectantly but sadly but I don't know how to make her feel better about being old. And I just sit there and my grandpa, the sweetest man on the planet, just kind of sits there, staring-- he drops off quite a bit too. His memory is fading, it's easy to see, but in a gentle way- luckily no Alzheimers or dementia in either of them. But grandpa of coruse has two fake hips, recurring skin cancer, diabetes, constant infections, etc etc etc. they have been married for 70 years and are both so fortunate to have each other still and I'm fortunate to have them, but how do you communicate meaningfully to someone you love who can barely hear you or respond, is so frail, so just OLD, but still quasi-able-minded.